Remarriage- a new hope towards a new life by Gurleen Kaur

Remarriage is not a sin, it is a way to restart and give a new beginning, a new hope for an altogether new and cheerful life.

Marriage is a term which corresponds to life time bonding and relationship shared between the bride and groom. It is the only relation, which has the power to bond a couple together for the rest of their lives. Of course, the basis and the most important foundation stones of this bond are love, trust, affection and understanding. These are also known as the four pillars of a strong and a long lived marriage. These are the factors, in Indian marriages, which tie the bond of bride and the groom as husband and wives for seven lives.

In the earlier days, even after the death of the husband, the bride was supposed to live all her life alone and independently. The point of independency is not an issue, these days, almost every girl is independent and earning her own living. Even in some cases, she is the one, who supports the living of her whole family, may be as a daughter, as a wife or as a daughter- in- law. The concept of remarriage was considered as the biggest sins of one's life in the earlier days, or we say in the old India. Loads of restrictions and outrageous thoughts were imposed on life of the widow and were left to lead life in a miserable situation. According to the orthodox believes of the people, the life of the women ends with the life of her husband, and after that she has no right to lead a happy and cheerful life. With the changing times and the increasing awareness in the society, people have become educated and have to a certain extent adopted the changes which are required to make in the orthodox thoughts and rituals. The belief that the life is to live and every human being irrespective of their gender and marital status is authorised to live a happy life, have started being implemented by people in their lives.

Today, the Indian society has been well equipped with all the modern thoughts and reforms which are required to make a modern and a developmental society. People have understood the importance of remarriage in the lives of the groom as well as the bride. Both have the rights to start their life all over again, if somehow his life partner dies due to some mishappenings. It is purely the choice of the person whether he wants to remarry or not, but if he wants then according to the laws today, no one can stop him from doing that. The concept of remarriage needs to be promoted among the citizens of India, because there are many people who still think that it is a sin and de-motivate their children from doing so. They should understand that the fact, that marrying once again, will not mark any sin in the lives of their children, but it will prove to be a new beginning for their happy life.

Remarriage after the death of the ex- partner is something which is required to have a healthy life. But these days, the longetivity of the relation is getting affected by the western culture and the new ideologies formed by the younger generation of the country. People these days, even divorce or remarry, due to the unsatisfactory or irritational behaviour of their partner. Marriage according to Indian values is a very auspicious and sacred bond shared between the husband and wife, and breaking this bond due to small misunderstanding or loud behaviour is no solution. This will in turn affect the seriousness of the wedding as a bond, so one should put in all the possible efforts to sustain their marriage, because misunderstanding can be cleared off but if once the relation breaks, it cannot be fixed with a fevicol or fevi stick. That is why; marriages are often marked with the tag of 'handle with care'.