Restoring your relationships by the power of forgiveness by J D Machill

When someone you care about hurts you, you can hold on to anger, bitterness and thoughts of revenge - or embrace forgiveness and move on with your life.

Nearly everyone has been hurt by the actions or words of another. Perhaps your father made an ugly comment when your girlfriend fell pregnant and she heard it, or perhaps your partner had an affair. These wounds can leave lasting feelings of anger, bitterness and even vengeance - but if you don't practice forgiveness, you may be the one who pays most dearly. Not forgiving someone is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.

What is forgiveness?

Generally, forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you may always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you. This is the ultimate result of true forgiveness - realizing that the one who hurt you is just as human as you are and subject to weaknesses and faults just like you.

The benefits of forgiveness.

By letting go of anger, grudges and bitterness we make way for compassion, kindness and peace, as well as reducing the risk of serious health problems. Recent medical research has shown that prolonged bitterness, anger and resentment can lead to illnesses such as cancer and heart disease. However, forgiveness can lead to:  Greater spiritual and psychological well-being  Less stress and hostility  Lower blood pressure  Healthier relationships  Fewer symptoms of depression, anxiety and chronic pain  Lower risk of alcohol and substance abuse

How do you go about forgiving someone?

Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change. A way to begin is by recognizing the value of forgiveness and its importance in your life at a given time. You need to actively choose to forgive the person who has offended you. You should no longer regard yourself as the victim, and, as you let go of your bitterness, the burden of pain will start easing. We should always treat others with compassion, empathy and respect.

The magic of making up.

If the hurtful event involved someone whose relationship you otherwise value, forgiveness may lead to reconciliation. Whether you have just broken up with your ex, have been separated for a long time, or even divorced, it is possible to get back together again. Once you have made the decision to forgive your ex, you can take the necessary steps to get your relationship back on track. For further advice on this topic go to: http://budurl.com/ckgl